Date number 2, this time with a younger man (I can't really count Hot Mexican!). Alright, I am ready for this or so I think. We decide to meet for a drink. Gorgeous, who I will now call PhD, has a few rules on his profile, he can tell in an hour if he likes you and puts a 2 hour time limit on the first date. The great thing is that in our 7 hour exchange we actually talked and laughed about this, so I could take it all in stride. I get dressed up, not overly but enough so that the people I work with are commenting on how good I look. Makes me wonder what I look like on a regular day frankly. Anyway, a few women correctly assume I am going on a date. I guess I looked alright! I arrive at the pub prepared to be cool and collected, and I can't find him so take a seat. I jump on my phone promptly, as one does, to look busy. PhD sends me a note that he thinks he saw me walk in and he as a table for us in "Section 4". I go look for Section 4, but the sections aren't marked and I can't find "Section 4". While I am looking, I trip on the stairs. Brilliant! Yes, stumble down 3 stairs in my heels but land rather elegantly (or not) but at least upright. Nothing like a good stumble to break the ice - we have a laugh as soon as we meet.
PhD is quieter than online, a little stalkier than his photo but cute and charming. We order a drink and I can't help but think that the waitress must think that this is quite the date. Or maybe she is used to it...... A group of young people sit next to us and I try not be uncomfortable. I decide that this is where I am in my life and I need not to worry. On with the date. We start talking and it became rather easy, the odd bump but I had a confidence about me that I didn't know I had. Must be my age! The date lasted 2 hours so based on PhD's profile, it was a success! I get an awkward kiss on the cheek when we leave and I have a giggle all the way back to my car. Maybe there will be another date. I was proud of myself that I went and it wasn't a disaster. I am thinking that I can actually do this dating thing, even with a younger man. Good for me!
Saturday 3 November 2012
Saturday 25 August 2012
Aging up, well a bit
After Hot Mexican and HTG, I decide that I need to start looking for older men. Not that I didn't have fun, but at 27, it really is a different kind of "relationship". And yes, I am calling it a relationship, not just sex. Okay, Hot Mexican, that was just sex. But 28 Year Old and HTG were both long exchanges that may have been about sex, but was more than sex. HTG proved that.
I go back online. I determine that the easiest way to do it is to just "open my profile", albeit with the filters :) This way men approach me vs me having to search for hours and see if I get a response or not. If they are interested, they will come......so I decide to open up for 24 hours. Let the games begin! Same as the first time, some crazies which are always entertaining especially the 45 year old who emailed me photos of himself in sheer underwear and was into S&M. That was the extent of the older men. Much to my surprise, I get a plethora of 32 year olds! This is not what I was expecting. "Wow, 46? No way". That one made me smile so I send a response. Why not? I get matched with a gorgeous model type, too good to be true and I am bold and sent him a note. And a few others. Huh. I wait to see what happens.
Wow Guy responds immediately. He was very keen. And there in the email pops up Gorgeous Guy and a few more 32 year olds. I am finding this all so entertaining! I narrow down my interest to Wow Guy and Gorgeous Guy. How fun to have to narrow it down! Wow Guy is a nice fellow who works in oil and gas and we have a good connection, he is really keen fast. Gorgeous Guy, as suspected is not Gorgeous Guy: GG: "You like the models?" Me: "Depends on the model" GG :"But you like the pretty boys'. Me: "No, not always, and that is not you". So we converse a bit and I ask him when he actually shows his real picture and he says "When I connect with someone, which is right about.......now" and sends his photo. Good looking man, so I ask why he uses that other ridiculous photo. Work. Wow Guy is still emailing me but Gorgeous, has popped onto chat. He is a PhD, smart and funny. Much to his surprise, I am a nerd at heart which hugely entertains my new friend. We chat well into the morning - 5 am actually and I am feeling a little high school! And in between it all, I of course get "the" photo. These young men sure are proud of their junk. But beyond the photo, Gorgeous and I had a great conversation about many things including Star Trek, go figure. Yes, we are nerds.
The next day I have messages from various 32 year olds but I am interested in Gorgeous. Something must be there if you can chat for 7 hours (can't believe at my age I sat on a chat line for 7 hours!). The email exchanges go on for a couple of weeks, and I am still conversing with Wow Guy although he has become a weekend texter so I just enjoy the moments. Gorgeous eventually asks to meet me. Date number 2?
Aging up didn't exactly work as planned. Being 5 years older than HTG does make a difference but these men are still 14 years younger than me. Yet it is fun and great for my ego and I have had no "real" interest from men my age. So I go with the flow, and agree to meet Gorgeous. Let the games really begin!
I go back online. I determine that the easiest way to do it is to just "open my profile", albeit with the filters :) This way men approach me vs me having to search for hours and see if I get a response or not. If they are interested, they will come......so I decide to open up for 24 hours. Let the games begin! Same as the first time, some crazies which are always entertaining especially the 45 year old who emailed me photos of himself in sheer underwear and was into S&M. That was the extent of the older men. Much to my surprise, I get a plethora of 32 year olds! This is not what I was expecting. "Wow, 46? No way". That one made me smile so I send a response. Why not? I get matched with a gorgeous model type, too good to be true and I am bold and sent him a note. And a few others. Huh. I wait to see what happens.
Wow Guy responds immediately. He was very keen. And there in the email pops up Gorgeous Guy and a few more 32 year olds. I am finding this all so entertaining! I narrow down my interest to Wow Guy and Gorgeous Guy. How fun to have to narrow it down! Wow Guy is a nice fellow who works in oil and gas and we have a good connection, he is really keen fast. Gorgeous Guy, as suspected is not Gorgeous Guy: GG: "You like the models?" Me: "Depends on the model" GG :"But you like the pretty boys'. Me: "No, not always, and that is not you". So we converse a bit and I ask him when he actually shows his real picture and he says "When I connect with someone, which is right about.......now" and sends his photo. Good looking man, so I ask why he uses that other ridiculous photo. Work. Wow Guy is still emailing me but Gorgeous, has popped onto chat. He is a PhD, smart and funny. Much to his surprise, I am a nerd at heart which hugely entertains my new friend. We chat well into the morning - 5 am actually and I am feeling a little high school! And in between it all, I of course get "the" photo. These young men sure are proud of their junk. But beyond the photo, Gorgeous and I had a great conversation about many things including Star Trek, go figure. Yes, we are nerds.
The next day I have messages from various 32 year olds but I am interested in Gorgeous. Something must be there if you can chat for 7 hours (can't believe at my age I sat on a chat line for 7 hours!). The email exchanges go on for a couple of weeks, and I am still conversing with Wow Guy although he has become a weekend texter so I just enjoy the moments. Gorgeous eventually asks to meet me. Date number 2?
Aging up didn't exactly work as planned. Being 5 years older than HTG does make a difference but these men are still 14 years younger than me. Yet it is fun and great for my ego and I have had no "real" interest from men my age. So I go with the flow, and agree to meet Gorgeous. Let the games really begin!
Wednesday 15 August 2012
The 27 year old rebound
During those days that Hot Tattoo Guy disappeared after the "parents being away" incident, I went on a business trip and was sitting in my regular hotel lounge finishing a glass of wine after an old friend who is dear to my heart (and married and married) departed. I am deep into my iPhone when I notice a nice looking young man sitting next to me. He smiles, and I smile back and continue to text and pretend to be very busy. One of the locals arrives, sits down to talk to the young man and introduces us. My new friend is from Mexico and in town doing family business. He is smart and very entertaining so what is not to like? He just came from a Cold Play concert and we start talking about music. Something to know about me is that I love music, and I have a kid who is totally into music so I am quite familiar. This hugely impresses my hot new friend. We have a great energetic conversation about work and music and life. Local guy takes off part way through, and we barely notice. Ah, it was nice to get this attention after Hot Tattoo Guy.
Cute Mexican suggests some music to me, writes the songs on a napkin, folds it and slips it to me. I smile and say thank you and there at the bottom is his room number...I am hugely flattered. I look at him and smile and ask how old he is. 27. Seems to be my sweet spot! I smile and say "Oh, this is very flattering but I look younger than I am, and I am much older than you, I'm 46". He looks directly at me and says "No problem". I suppose between HTG and my married married friend and being alone for a very long time - I said yes without much hesitation. I feel like I should defend my position here but I am not going to. For the first time in ages I had no reservations.....the conversation with Cute Mexican had to be the best foreplay I had in a long time.
After Cute Mexican left my room late that evening/morning (better than me having to leave his room in the middle of the night), I notice a FB message on email. Ah, Hot Tattoo Guy telling me he can't take it anymore and has to "see" me. Yes, two 27 year olds in one night....well sort of. Lucky me :)
Cute Mexican suggests some music to me, writes the songs on a napkin, folds it and slips it to me. I smile and say thank you and there at the bottom is his room number...I am hugely flattered. I look at him and smile and ask how old he is. 27. Seems to be my sweet spot! I smile and say "Oh, this is very flattering but I look younger than I am, and I am much older than you, I'm 46". He looks directly at me and says "No problem". I suppose between HTG and my married married friend and being alone for a very long time - I said yes without much hesitation. I feel like I should defend my position here but I am not going to. For the first time in ages I had no reservations.....the conversation with Cute Mexican had to be the best foreplay I had in a long time.
After Cute Mexican left my room late that evening/morning (better than me having to leave his room in the middle of the night), I notice a FB message on email. Ah, Hot Tattoo Guy telling me he can't take it anymore and has to "see" me. Yes, two 27 year olds in one night....well sort of. Lucky me :)
Wednesday 8 August 2012
5 1/2 weeks not 9 1/2 Weeks
HTG is back in my life and I like it. I have reservations, but he is really cute so what is a girl to do, but continue? In fact, I think I am a little addicted to HTG. In my heart I know this is not really what I want but something draws me back in. This is really good for my ego and is a bit adventurous for me, albeit online.....
HTG and I continue our little game and I look forward to the exchanges. I know lots about HTG through his daily posts on FB in addition to his daily texting which makes me smile throughout my busy days. And he knows nothing about me but like before, that doesn't seem to bother him. It's all about the fun. Yes, like a school girl, checking my phone, checking FB, creeping. Did I say I liked this? I most certainly did. He talks me into Skyping. Honestly, I don't know how I got there. I am so much older and it was late at night and I thought, this is not how I want him to see me for the first time. He does a good job convincing me: "I won't be naughty" (Ah HTG, you are always naughty, but I pretend to believe him). We Skype after a quick hair and makeup check. He is quite happy to see me, in fact his reaction is something that I will always remember. That was a huge relief. And HTG is pretty darn cute. And not just cute, there is something in his smile and his personality that I really like - I am smitten with the 27 year old. HTG as expected, is a bit naughty just for me.....blush.
A few weeks into our online affair, he tells me that his parents are going away for 10 days and he has the house to himself. "Hey babe, you and me, every day and then some." Well, well, well. Now I am nervous because this is just wrong. I mean really, he was born in 1985 - I could be his mother! Yes, I did say that out loud. I suggest a coffee or a drink to see if we really like each other, as I have a 3 date rule and I am older!!! (Ok, that is something I came up with for the 28 year old so it is kind of a rule even though it hasn't been exercised). He thinks meeting is awkward after how long we have 'known each other'. Do we know each other I wonder? "I have coffee and drinks here." After weeks of texting, FB chats and many nights of Skyping, I do actually feel like I know him (ALL of him) so with a little prompting from my friend who thinks I am crazy not to, I agree to meet HTG at his house, safety backup organized and all. Oh my.
Attempt #1 - He cancels, some friends stop by and they won't leave. Attempt #2 - he had to go out and didn't text me until 12:30 am. Attempt #3 - I get an address, a rendevous time and I am ON MY WAY when he cancels. So just to be clear, after cancellation #1, I didn't really believe HTG could go through with it. When he gave me his address (Googled and matched to the photo on FB so real) I was surprised but then not so surprised that at the last minute HTG just couldn't go through with it. I think he really thought he could. This may sound crazy, but this made me like him more (no I am not sick, it was just that I realized he was actually a nice guy that thought he had to be more for me). I wasn't sure I could have actually rang his doorbell anyway so I was quite happy that he made the decision for me. He spends a few more days trying to lure me to his house before his parents come home ("sneak into my bed before you go to work") but I wasn't going there again, and then HTG disappeared. Not surprising, all things considered. I send a note, politely saying good bye. He keeps me as friend on FB and I get to creep, just a little.
Just over a week later, no surprise, HTG sends me a FB message that he can't take it anymore and has to see me, in true HTG sexting fashion. HTG is back AGAIN. I know it won't amount to anything so I just enjoy the attention. This time though, he sends really nice photos of himself and "nicer" suggestive text messages. After all the racy stuff, it was really really good to see this side of him. And then after days of this nicer side of HTG, I get the text - "Hey babe, I met someone. Sorry to have been such a pain in the ass." Yes indeed HTG, you were a major pain in the ass.
HTG and I are no longer FB friends. Before he "de-friended" me and I "unliked" him, I saw the young woman and she is beautiful and I am happy for him (yes I am, really because I have to be). But I am sad to lose HTG. The funny thing is that in between all the crazy stuff, he taught me to be brave and embrace life again and believe that I am still attractive and desirable. Thank you Hot Tattoo Guy! But a part of me will always be sorry that he didn't get to know the real me or that I didn't get to meet the real him....at least Kim Basinger got into Mickey Rourke's house.
HTG and I continue our little game and I look forward to the exchanges. I know lots about HTG through his daily posts on FB in addition to his daily texting which makes me smile throughout my busy days. And he knows nothing about me but like before, that doesn't seem to bother him. It's all about the fun. Yes, like a school girl, checking my phone, checking FB, creeping. Did I say I liked this? I most certainly did. He talks me into Skyping. Honestly, I don't know how I got there. I am so much older and it was late at night and I thought, this is not how I want him to see me for the first time. He does a good job convincing me: "I won't be naughty" (Ah HTG, you are always naughty, but I pretend to believe him). We Skype after a quick hair and makeup check. He is quite happy to see me, in fact his reaction is something that I will always remember. That was a huge relief. And HTG is pretty darn cute. And not just cute, there is something in his smile and his personality that I really like - I am smitten with the 27 year old. HTG as expected, is a bit naughty just for me.....blush.
A few weeks into our online affair, he tells me that his parents are going away for 10 days and he has the house to himself. "Hey babe, you and me, every day and then some." Well, well, well. Now I am nervous because this is just wrong. I mean really, he was born in 1985 - I could be his mother! Yes, I did say that out loud. I suggest a coffee or a drink to see if we really like each other, as I have a 3 date rule and I am older!!! (Ok, that is something I came up with for the 28 year old so it is kind of a rule even though it hasn't been exercised). He thinks meeting is awkward after how long we have 'known each other'. Do we know each other I wonder? "I have coffee and drinks here." After weeks of texting, FB chats and many nights of Skyping, I do actually feel like I know him (ALL of him) so with a little prompting from my friend who thinks I am crazy not to, I agree to meet HTG at his house, safety backup organized and all. Oh my.
Attempt #1 - He cancels, some friends stop by and they won't leave. Attempt #2 - he had to go out and didn't text me until 12:30 am. Attempt #3 - I get an address, a rendevous time and I am ON MY WAY when he cancels. So just to be clear, after cancellation #1, I didn't really believe HTG could go through with it. When he gave me his address (Googled and matched to the photo on FB so real) I was surprised but then not so surprised that at the last minute HTG just couldn't go through with it. I think he really thought he could. This may sound crazy, but this made me like him more (no I am not sick, it was just that I realized he was actually a nice guy that thought he had to be more for me). I wasn't sure I could have actually rang his doorbell anyway so I was quite happy that he made the decision for me. He spends a few more days trying to lure me to his house before his parents come home ("sneak into my bed before you go to work") but I wasn't going there again, and then HTG disappeared. Not surprising, all things considered. I send a note, politely saying good bye. He keeps me as friend on FB and I get to creep, just a little.
Just over a week later, no surprise, HTG sends me a FB message that he can't take it anymore and has to see me, in true HTG sexting fashion. HTG is back AGAIN. I know it won't amount to anything so I just enjoy the attention. This time though, he sends really nice photos of himself and "nicer" suggestive text messages. After all the racy stuff, it was really really good to see this side of him. And then after days of this nicer side of HTG, I get the text - "Hey babe, I met someone. Sorry to have been such a pain in the ass." Yes indeed HTG, you were a major pain in the ass.
HTG and I are no longer FB friends. Before he "de-friended" me and I "unliked" him, I saw the young woman and she is beautiful and I am happy for him (yes I am, really because I have to be). But I am sad to lose HTG. The funny thing is that in between all the crazy stuff, he taught me to be brave and embrace life again and believe that I am still attractive and desirable. Thank you Hot Tattoo Guy! But a part of me will always be sorry that he didn't get to know the real me or that I didn't get to meet the real him....at least Kim Basinger got into Mickey Rourke's house.
Sunday 5 August 2012
A whole new world
Enter the next phase of my dating life as I embrace Hot Tattoo Guy. Although to be honest, I am not quite sure this is really dating but it is fun, and safe. HTG and I exchange a few more text messages, and he is really bold. I am not sure. If I embrace this, does set the tone of whatever this is? Or if I don't embrace this am I being old and dated? I decide that I am going to embrace it. He sends me all of his details and invites me to be a friend on Facebook. I get to know a lot about HTG - his friends, family and what he is really like. All he gets from me is my alias FB page....but he doesn't seem to mind. I quite like what I see, beyond the sexting.
The next few days get quite racy, and with help of some wine (no I am not an alcoholic but it sure helps give me a bit of courage to explore!) I have more fun with HTG..... But over the next few days I can't engage HTG in anything BUT, AND I find out he has moved back home....which was really awkward! "You should come over when my parents are out". Wow. This was so not working for me and I decide to make a clean cut: Thanks for the fun, but not for me. What I wasn't prepared for was that HTG got really hurt and in fact, I realized that perhaps he liked me a lot more than I thought. "Are you drunk?? What are you talking about?" 5:50 am text saying that he has moved on too, and then the FB post that his friends teased him about (which was promptly removed). Oh my.
A day passes and I feel horrible. I didn't really get this space as well as I thought I did and I clearly messed up - not with ending it, but how I did it. I realized that whatever HTG and I had for that week, was in fact something. So I text HTG an apology about how I handled myself, I should have explained what was wrong and been nicer about it. Another day passes, and there in my text messages is a smiley face from HTG. Hey. Hey. Are you still interested he asks....and there was HTG, not racy HTG, just HTG. I remembered why I liked him.
The next few days get quite racy, and with help of some wine (no I am not an alcoholic but it sure helps give me a bit of courage to explore!) I have more fun with HTG..... But over the next few days I can't engage HTG in anything BUT, AND I find out he has moved back home....which was really awkward! "You should come over when my parents are out". Wow. This was so not working for me and I decide to make a clean cut: Thanks for the fun, but not for me. What I wasn't prepared for was that HTG got really hurt and in fact, I realized that perhaps he liked me a lot more than I thought. "Are you drunk?? What are you talking about?" 5:50 am text saying that he has moved on too, and then the FB post that his friends teased him about (which was promptly removed). Oh my.
A day passes and I feel horrible. I didn't really get this space as well as I thought I did and I clearly messed up - not with ending it, but how I did it. I realized that whatever HTG and I had for that week, was in fact something. So I text HTG an apology about how I handled myself, I should have explained what was wrong and been nicer about it. Another day passes, and there in my text messages is a smiley face from HTG. Hey. Hey. Are you still interested he asks....and there was HTG, not racy HTG, just HTG. I remembered why I liked him.
Friday 13 July 2012
Hot Tattoo Guy
Hot Tattoo Guy. Yes, that really sums it up. He is young and he is hot. I ponder the idea of texting him back and decide that this is something that I must do. It is good for my ego especially after the date and really, I am not using my real name so I am in control. I am curious about this guy. Hot Tattoo Guy is bold and appears to be very interested. Well not in a relationship but interested.
It takes me a day, and that night I send him a text that simply says "Hi, it's me". Well, almost instantly I get a response, "Hey babe!" That makes me smile.....It is late and we go back and forth a bit, and he sends me a photo. He is really cute. Young, but so cute. Nice photo I reply. Bing, other photo, this time with his shirt off. Hmmmm nice indeed. And then another with a bit less on. Oh my. I am thinking this little strip tease is fun but making me a bit nervous. He texts "Your turn". I am so not going there. I am way older and can't have racy photos ANYWHERE of me so it is not going to happen. He is disappointed. Now, I am no prude but I have to admit I was surprised by the full nude that popped into my phone a few seconds later. Wow. I was a little shocked and I was lying there thinking, he has no fear. He just put it all out there! Indeed all of it was out there. As I am thinking this through, he texts "Too much?" Oh yeah baby, too much. Nice but wow.
I woke up thinking about Hot Tattoo Guy and the photos and thought I either have to end this or learn to embrace it. Takes me a few minutes and I decide that my alias is not done with this young man. I send him a note, "Woke up thinking about your photos".....
It takes me a day, and that night I send him a text that simply says "Hi, it's me". Well, almost instantly I get a response, "Hey babe!" That makes me smile.....It is late and we go back and forth a bit, and he sends me a photo. He is really cute. Young, but so cute. Nice photo I reply. Bing, other photo, this time with his shirt off. Hmmmm nice indeed. And then another with a bit less on. Oh my. I am thinking this little strip tease is fun but making me a bit nervous. He texts "Your turn". I am so not going there. I am way older and can't have racy photos ANYWHERE of me so it is not going to happen. He is disappointed. Now, I am no prude but I have to admit I was surprised by the full nude that popped into my phone a few seconds later. Wow. I was a little shocked and I was lying there thinking, he has no fear. He just put it all out there! Indeed all of it was out there. As I am thinking this through, he texts "Too much?" Oh yeah baby, too much. Nice but wow.
I woke up thinking about Hot Tattoo Guy and the photos and thought I either have to end this or learn to embrace it. Takes me a few minutes and I decide that my alias is not done with this young man. I send him a note, "Woke up thinking about your photos".....
Friday 6 July 2012
First Date, finally!
Ready, set, go! Those 24 hours on "that" site had a pay off. Getting all that attention in such a short period of time (albeit when my filters said that I would be into ANYTHING) gave me more confidence to dive into this online dating experience. I decided to go through that 24 hour email flurry and see if anything real came through. Amongst the weird matches, there were a few interesting fellows on the site and I decided that I had to go for it. I send out responses, short easy answers. I like this site. It is not complicated, people are straight forward and to the point. Email: "Want sex?" My response: "Not interested." Done. Like it!
I come across a 48 year old whose picture was pretty good and I like his profile. And then there was this really hot 27 year old with an awesome tattoo who checked me out. I am flattered! And another guy that was 47 who wasn't bad at all. Huh, I think. So much for months on those other sites that have extensive questionnaires just to get some biker dude ask me if I like to get hurt. I embrace the moment and email all three. The 47 and 48 year old were serious, the 27 year old for fun and I wasn't really expecting a response. All three emailed back. Now I was really experiencing how this online dating works! I was interacting with all three at the same time. It is fascinating how the younger generation understands this space. Hot Tattoo Guy jumped in and wooed me instantly, and although forward it didn't bother me at all, in fact it was entertaining and made me quite interested. There was a sense of honestly and openness. I like that. But really, he is 27, so I just enjoy the moment. 47 year old, he was nice but the next email exchange he made the comment about "wanting a woman with both feet on the ground, well most of the time." Not for me. Interestingly enough, Hot Tattoo Guy didn't offend me at all. Was it because I was flattered? Or maybe I expect more from the 47 year old. Really, Hot Tattoo Guy knew how to make it fun through flattery :)
Anyway, I started to focus on 48 Year Old. We exchange a few emails on the site and I like him. He quickly adopted a nickname for me from my handle. "Hey LO how are you today?" I liked that a lot! Fun, easy going guy. He wants to get off the site and text. Alright. That is how the next step works. We start texting. He sends me more photos, good looking man. And then photos of his children which frankly doesn't always sit well with me (don't involve your kids this early in the game!) but men always seem to think women want to see their nurturing side. Then comes the phone call. It appears, from what limited experience I have had on these sites, men my age email or text a couple of times and then want to call or meet right away vs texting dating like the younger men prefer. I am actually a big texter because I don't have a lot of time to date so I like to be sure. But I take the call, and it goes really well. We laugh, we talk and decide to meet for a coffee at Starbucks. I set up my first official online date!
If the date was good, I would have dedicated an entire post to describe all the great moments. It wasn't that it was all bad. He was a nice enough man but all of the fun online and texting, and even on the phone call were missing. After being 20 minutes late (he did text and let me know) the date started with him finding me in Chapters. He said he wondered what section I would be in as it would tell him some about who I am, go figure he finds me in the discount section (I like to pick up obscure books for cheap)! I thought that was really funny but we really didn't laugh too much about it. Hmmmm. In my inexperience I got into professional introduction mode and use my real name. We laugh at that a bit considering how careful I was about not disclosing my name. We find a seat in Chapters and begin the date: 48 Year Old likes to talk about kale, yoga, meditation and fasting. We debate nicely on a few points. 48 Year Old talks about his business and challenges me on few points of discussion around his beliefs and more about him. Sometimes I am just too good at engaging people. When we had 10 minutes left he quickly asked about me. Well, I tried to make it light, back to how were were online and laughed and I started with "Well, my life is quite different that yours, I am not as relaxed as you". I spent the last 10 minutes of the date explaining to 48 Year Old that it was a compliment and I didn't mean to offend him. The end. He texted me shortly after that it was really nice to meet me using my real name. I texted back and said "Nice to meet you too, I am going to miss LO". Going to miss LO in more ways than one.
I get home, take a deep breath and decide to go back on the site. Hot Tattoo Guy has emailed me: "Hey sexy. Text me." :)
I come across a 48 year old whose picture was pretty good and I like his profile. And then there was this really hot 27 year old with an awesome tattoo who checked me out. I am flattered! And another guy that was 47 who wasn't bad at all. Huh, I think. So much for months on those other sites that have extensive questionnaires just to get some biker dude ask me if I like to get hurt. I embrace the moment and email all three. The 47 and 48 year old were serious, the 27 year old for fun and I wasn't really expecting a response. All three emailed back. Now I was really experiencing how this online dating works! I was interacting with all three at the same time. It is fascinating how the younger generation understands this space. Hot Tattoo Guy jumped in and wooed me instantly, and although forward it didn't bother me at all, in fact it was entertaining and made me quite interested. There was a sense of honestly and openness. I like that. But really, he is 27, so I just enjoy the moment. 47 year old, he was nice but the next email exchange he made the comment about "wanting a woman with both feet on the ground, well most of the time." Not for me. Interestingly enough, Hot Tattoo Guy didn't offend me at all. Was it because I was flattered? Or maybe I expect more from the 47 year old. Really, Hot Tattoo Guy knew how to make it fun through flattery :)
Anyway, I started to focus on 48 Year Old. We exchange a few emails on the site and I like him. He quickly adopted a nickname for me from my handle. "Hey LO how are you today?" I liked that a lot! Fun, easy going guy. He wants to get off the site and text. Alright. That is how the next step works. We start texting. He sends me more photos, good looking man. And then photos of his children which frankly doesn't always sit well with me (don't involve your kids this early in the game!) but men always seem to think women want to see their nurturing side. Then comes the phone call. It appears, from what limited experience I have had on these sites, men my age email or text a couple of times and then want to call or meet right away vs texting dating like the younger men prefer. I am actually a big texter because I don't have a lot of time to date so I like to be sure. But I take the call, and it goes really well. We laugh, we talk and decide to meet for a coffee at Starbucks. I set up my first official online date!
If the date was good, I would have dedicated an entire post to describe all the great moments. It wasn't that it was all bad. He was a nice enough man but all of the fun online and texting, and even on the phone call were missing. After being 20 minutes late (he did text and let me know) the date started with him finding me in Chapters. He said he wondered what section I would be in as it would tell him some about who I am, go figure he finds me in the discount section (I like to pick up obscure books for cheap)! I thought that was really funny but we really didn't laugh too much about it. Hmmmm. In my inexperience I got into professional introduction mode and use my real name. We laugh at that a bit considering how careful I was about not disclosing my name. We find a seat in Chapters and begin the date: 48 Year Old likes to talk about kale, yoga, meditation and fasting. We debate nicely on a few points. 48 Year Old talks about his business and challenges me on few points of discussion around his beliefs and more about him. Sometimes I am just too good at engaging people. When we had 10 minutes left he quickly asked about me. Well, I tried to make it light, back to how were were online and laughed and I started with "Well, my life is quite different that yours, I am not as relaxed as you". I spent the last 10 minutes of the date explaining to 48 Year Old that it was a compliment and I didn't mean to offend him. The end. He texted me shortly after that it was really nice to meet me using my real name. I texted back and said "Nice to meet you too, I am going to miss LO". Going to miss LO in more ways than one.
I get home, take a deep breath and decide to go back on the site. Hot Tattoo Guy has emailed me: "Hey sexy. Text me." :)
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